I was reading thru the archives of
Andy's Chest
And he made a interesting point:
I was talking to this friend of mine who just moved to brooklyn from
seattle and we were talking about how in other parts of the country,
like seattle, people were massage therapists and teachers and cooks
and bicyclists and doctors and writers and singers and all this other
stuff, and then maybe they were gay. and in new york its like, first
and foremost, you're gay and then if you're anything else, well, that's
secondary.
Hmmmm... That is so true here in SF. Your life is based around your
sexuality. Whom you hang out with. What area's of town you go to.
Your favorite bar, cafe, restaurant, book store. And of course this started
me wondering, why? And more so, is this ok? First, why? I would think
it is a need for a sense of security, and community. The human need to
feel a part of something. In general it seems like people really need
to know they are a part of something. If it watching playing sports,
being part of a club, volunteering, etc. Seems like everything in life
is centered around being part of “something”. Very little in life is just
for you, no matter how much you think so. A night home alone watching
TV for “yourself” ends up being you chatting about what you watched
with friends at work the next day. In turn being part of something
But I digress, that brings me to the question of, is this ok? For me
the answer has to do with your own comfortably. Meaning, are
you comfortable in your life? Or are you looking at your life
thinks a lot needs to change. I say if you are happy in your life
that is what matters, not trying to avoid labels. And I guess that
is what is all boils down to label. I hear people say all the time
“I don’t like to use labels.” But in not using labels you are putting
your self in the group of “non” labelers. Hmmm… This is turning
into a post that is a unfinished thought. Which I hate. So I will end
here. As Springer says "Take care of yourself, and each other."
Or something like that…